I promised I wouldn’t leave you hanging last week…
So I’m back to help you solve your problems between the sheets!
Last week we talked about how the way we view ourselves and our bodies can really mess with our confidence in bed!
(And I mentioned that we’re having this sex talk because part of my mission is to help you feel your best in ALL aspects of your life. 😉)
I am always talking about how our minds can’t differentiate between conscious and unconscious thoughts.
Like… when you put yourself down as you look in the mirror on your way to the shower and think EWWWW - even if it’s a joke, it takes a big hit on your self-esteem.
We have to fix this. We have to eliminate our negative self-talk.
Where our mind goes, our energy flows, so if you repeat something enough times, you will believe it eventually… and maybe even become it.
We can use affirmations to help eliminate negative self-talk and take us where we need to be. Here’s an example of an affirmation:
When your partner compliments you - PAUSE - and instead of coming back with some self-deprecating, “Ew, no, I’m gross!” or “Haha thanks, but you are crazy,” listen, take it in, say thank you and BELIEVE THEM.
Every day, thoughts come into our minds. The good, the bad, the ugly. Being mindful allows you to observe these thoughts without being judgmental of them or yourself. It helps you pause a minute before accepting the thoughts as true.
We can observe them and even question them, and in doing so, learn that they are not necessarily a concrete reality but just thoughts and feelings.
The next time you’re getting hot and heavy, focus on your partner and how they are responding to you. Notice the pleasure you are bringing them!
Breathe! Literally focusing on your breath as you breathe in and out can be enough to distract your wandering mind.
Part of Core Fit’s missions is to help you transform your life and build confidence from the inside out through fitness.
How is this possible? When we focus on what our bodies CAN do, stick to a plan, and build our self-belief, we build confidence.
When we focus on the inner changes occurring, the outer, physical changes will follow.
I have seen in my life, as well as my clients’ lives, the full-life transformation that comes from fitness.
Do you want that for yourself? And for your partner? (When you choose to make these changes for yourself, they’ll benefit too!)
