Let’s talk about sex, baby! Let’s talk about you and… your partner. Not me. LOL.
We’re getting personal today, friend. But that’s because part of my mission is to help you feel your best in ALL aspects of your life.
So let’s take a trip to the bedroom. How are things between the sheets?
The way we view ourselves and our bodies can really mess with our confidence in bed!
If you’re unhappy with how you look, it is so easy to hide under the sheets.
Not only can it make you feel self-conscious, but it can even interfere with your ability to become aroused and feel sexual desire in general.
We tend to focus on 2 things when it’s time to hop in bed: How we see our bodies and how we think our partners see our bodies.
How You See Yourself
If you feel unattractive and have low self -esteem, you’re more likely to avoid sexual activity because you have no desire, right? And once one area of that sexual cycle is interrupted, like desire it is like a domino affect. No desire means no arousal.
“The more she critically views her body, the more anxiety she will feel about being seen and touched — and the less able she’ll be to lose herself in the moment and become aroused. Specific concerns about her body, like worry about the size of her body parts or her weight (the most frequent female rule of measure) are the strongest predictors of orgasm problems.” - from Psychology Today
How You Think Your Partner Sees You
If you know that your partner is attracted to you, your “sexual functioning” will be higher.
But if you’re worried or insecure about that, your desire is disrupted, along with your ability to become aroused.
“For instance, in menopause, while hormones are part of the explanation for the loss of libido, a woman’s sense of desirability may be a factor as well. Older women complain of not turning the heads of men and often feel deflated as to their attractiveness, resulting in lower libido.” - Psychology Today
So how do we fix this and start enjoying sex again? (It IS possible!)
Great question. The answer is coming in my next blog. Keep an eye open for it!
