Does This Make You Feel Selfish?

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What does it look like for you?

 

Maybe it’s solo time at the gym. (Or in your home gym, for now.)

 

Maybe it’s an hour in the tub.

 

Maybe it’s some quiet time, reading on the back porch.

 

I’m talking about some “me” time. Don’t guilt yourself out of it, friend!
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Mom guilt is SO real and I didn’t get it until I became a mom. 

 

It can be so easy to second-guess even the smallest decision and start obsessing over everything.
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You can seriously talk yourself out of something you really need because you feel bad!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I have really struggled with wanting to be everything for everyone. 

 

I want to be home with Lariah every day but also build my business. 

 

I want to spend my days making our house feel like a home, doing all the cooking, cleaning, packing lunches, etc., but also spend hours coaching my clients.

 

I want to be able to respond to every DM, message, email, or text, but also never have my phone in hand so I can be present with my family.

 

I also want to take care of myself and be able to continue things like working out!


I felt like I sucked at everything, lol. Everything was getting a piece of me, but nothing was getting ALL of me. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I learned that I needed to set some boundaries. 


This is what it looked like for me:

  • Asking for help - talking with my husband about it and coming up with a plan

  • Sending Lariah to part-time daycare

  • Hiring people in my business to take some tasks on

  • Setting boundaries with clients and not answering everything at any time

  • Stop explaining my decisions to everyone - this is a big one for me!

  • Letting go a little and realizing my sole purpose isn’t to make everyone happy with the decisions I make⠀
     

What would it look like for you?

 

This was so uncomfortable at first, simply because I felt like I was letting people down. ⠀⠀
But hear this - you simply cannot be everything to everyone. 

 

We are wired for approval… so it feels uncomfy when we’re not getting it. But what’s worse is living off the expectations of others and not staying true to yourself.⠀⠀⠀
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You are not a failure if you need a few hours to yourself to work, read, be alone, go to the gym, or do anything you NEED to be your best self.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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What would you do with a few hours to yourself? Comment below and let me know!

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